Gags can be fun because they give you permission to make a bit of extra noise. For now panties or a tie, make a good starter gag and have a bit of a naughty factor built in. Once you get used to playing with gags, you can explore toys specifically designed for this purpose. This will deepen the receiver's focus internally, when you first start to play with gags, make sure to use something that can easily be spit out if needed. To add another layer of sensory deprivation, you can add earplugs to a blindfold scene. Please only put pleasant, clean objects in their mouth, unless you have pre-negotiated otherwise. Giving the receiver something to hold in their mouth, demands that they say alert and pay attention. Your lover will feel you approach their face, with the heightened awareness that comes with shutting down the sense of sight. Make this kind of touch very purposeful and deliberate, stroking the lips with an object and kissing are also intensified with a blindfold on. And with a blindfold, it is even more intimate. (heavy moaning) (heavy tapping) Stroking your lover's face is normally quite a tender act. This creates a nice heavy impact without risking injury. Notice how Chris is keeping her hands relaxed, as she makes impact with the chest. (soft moaning) A light feathery tickle creates a fascinating contrast, for deep penetrating funds using loose open fists and the back of the hand. You can also create contrast with toys and your hands. (soft moaning) Doing the same thing over and over dulls the senses, contrast awakens the skin and keeps things interesting. By alternating two very different sensations, you capture your lover's attention and keep them guessing, contrast also helps keep the nerve endings alert and ready for new stimulation. Notice the surprise that comes with this contrast. First, she uses the softness of a furr glove to create a smooth, comforting sensation, then quickly contrasts that softness, with the intense sharpness of Wartenberg wheel. One of the easiest ways to play with surprise is to get them accustomed to one sensation and then surprise them with a contrast. With your full attention and care, you can create surprise and pleasure without startling or jolting your lover in an unpleasant way. Use your body weight deliberately and intentionally at all times. Remember if your lover is on a chair, make sure to maintain control of that chair and don't let it rock as this will make your partner feel unstable and unsafe. By sliding her knee in between the receivers legs, Chris is making her presence known and introducing some arousing stimulation without shocking, direct touch. You can also make your partner feel your presence, with a well-placed knee. One of the fun parts of using a blindfold is creating surprise and anticipation. It's a way of saying, relax I've got you, with your touch. This kind of pressure can be very reassuring and comforting while wearing a blindfold. Notice how Chris is using very firm pressure in her touch. This will turn their attention inward, and give them a chance to relax into your touch. Then use light or moderate pressure glides to create lots of skin to skin contact.
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Use the whole hand melt technique, to slowly introduce your touch. When playing with the blindfold, your first touch is essential to set the tone of the scene. Here Chris approaches the receiver slowly, using the sound of her boots on the floor, to give the receiver a point of sensory reference. Your lover is in a vulnerable state, and is now in your care, so take that responsibility seriously.
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Once you have the blindfold in place, every action you take must be deliberate and mindful. In this video, Chris demonstrates some important skills to keep in mind, while using a blindfold. Planning Guide to Creating Your Own Kinky Adventures Planning Guide to the Foundations of Kinky Sex